We all want to be successful and live our purpose. We want the dream job, fabulous house, perfect family, and freedom to live without limits. But for some of us, it just hasn’t happened. Or maybe you appear to have an ideal life, but you’re still empty emotionally. Why hasn’t it happened yet? Why are you unable to grasp “happiness?” Ok, ok I’ll tell you, you are stuck because you are too full!

Yep, your emotional trashcan is overflowing, and it needs to be purged. Our “emotional trashcan” is an internal space inside each of you where unresolved issues, fears, failures, unforgivness, memories of past abuse, depression, and other emotionally crippling issues are tucked away and forgotten. Over time, this collection of clutter becomes a distraction and hinders you from seeing who you are authentically. So, it’s time for you to take action; it’s time for you to change the way you see yourself!

Right now you’re probably asking, what qualifies me as an expert on change and letting go? So, here it is straight with no chaser; I learned to hate everything about myself at a young age. When I was ten years old, I was told I was too skinny to be pretty. When I was twelve years old, I was told I was an unwanted bastard. When I was thirteen, the person who was sexually abusing me spit in my face looked me in my eyes and said, I was weak, and they would always control me. When I was in the ninth grade, my teacher actually had a meeting with my mother and questioned my intellect. When I was in college, one of my professors told me I was enrolled in the wrong school, and I needed to “reevaluate” my choice of school and career. So, throughout my life, I saw myself as an ugly dumb victim who had nothing to offer the world.  So how did I go from all those people telling me I “wouldn’t” and “couldn’t” to telling me how proud they are, claiming they know me and asking for free books? I’m glad you asked; I changed the way I saw myself! Believe me, it wasn’t easy. I cussed, I fussed, I kicked, and I screamed many nights, but I made it. And so can you!

What does changing the way you see yourself look like? It looks and feels like crawling into your emotional trashcan sifting through the rotten stinking toxic mess you’ve collected over the years to make room for the blessings God has for you. Change the way you see yourself is not just another popular mantra it’s a lifestyle that will transform your soul and nourish your spirit.  As a women experiencing the joy of seeing myself as fearfully and wonderfully made,  I want to help you transform your life by empowering and equipping you to live your best life.  

 

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Much of how we see ourselves, how we treat others, our negative thoughts, insecurities, fears and the way we allow others to treat us is a direct reflection of our inability to see ourselves as God sees us; fearfully and wonderfully made. Changing the way you see yourself is not about new clothes, new hair, new makeup, or augmenting body parts to make yourself look better physically. It’s about healing from the inside out. If you don’t feel good about who you are at your core, cosmetic enhancements won’t amount to a hill of beans; you’ll still be a mess wrapped in a beautiful package. Using the principles outlined in “Change the Way You See Yourself” Kiffany will assist with designing a plan to identity the debris that fills your emotional trashcan while encouraging you to release the extraordinary woman that live inside, embrace the power of forgiveness, and live your best life by seeing yourself as fear fully and wonderfully made.

Unforgiveness is like a traveling bullet; it destroys everything in its path. The unwillingness to forgive is what hinders us from enjoying a healthy and fulfilling life. Harboring resentment, pain, and hatred toward someone who has hurt you emotionally or physically can cause damage that could take a lifetime to repair. This session will encourage you to embrace forgiveness while exploring the Biblical principles of forgiveness and importance of the freedom of letting go.

Proverbs 15:4, reminds us “The soothing tongue is a tree of life, but a perverse tongue crushes the spirit.”  One of the crucial steps in changing the way you see yourself is learning how to change your language; learning how to speak life to your soul.  We are often guilty of wounding our spirit by convincing ourselves that we’re not good enough, we can’t, we are not worthy, or we are worthless. How we speak to our soul is just as essential to our personal growth as the way others speak to us. When you speak life into your spirit you transform your internal environment from dehydration to restoration.  “Speak Life” will help you transform your internal language of insecurity from “I can’t” to “Yes, I can” from “I’m not worthy” to “I am enough.”